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How Head Covering Changed Me

I began covering in the Fall of 2012, and the journey has been amazing. Where I’m standing now isn’t the same place I started, as I now see when looking back on the past nine years. Head covering has taught me some important life lessons.

And right now, I bet I already know what you’re thinking: I’m about to say that head covering helped me learn to be a more submissive wife. Though that is certainly true (and I will be coming back to that in a moment), there are actually some other ways head covering changed me that aren’t as obvious.

The Less Obvious

To start with, I used to be a little afraid to be different. I didn’t want people to think ill of me. On the contrary, I wanted to impress them with how smart and how pretty I thought I was! I can see now that I was insecure and guided by vanity. Head covering changed all that.

As a result of head covering, I’ve given up on those things. I haven’t given up on trying to look pretty or be smart, but I’ve given up on caring about people thinking that I look pretty or that I’m smart.

I suspect they think I’m a little different, maybe even ignorant and unbalanced, and I’ve arrived at the point where I’m okay with that. I don’t need their approval and I don’t care what they think of me (okay, I actually do still care — just not as much as before). What freedom to let go of the need to live up to other people’s expectations, and to not worry about their opinion of me! Read more

Are My Head Covering Priorities in Line with the Bible?

When I first started head covering, I temporarily experienced a bit of tunnel vision. I was still trying to clarify and solidify my beliefs, which necessitated quite a bit of time spent in focused study. I was also trying to understand (and deal with) the different reactions I got. Traversing this unfamiliar ground required extra attention, for a while. Though I was very careful to not allow this new experience to turn into a focal point of obsession, other people may have been concerned that it would.

Nine years later, I’m happy to say that it hasn’t.

Head covering has never been an issue I’ve exalted over more important matters, such as confessing sin, trusting in Christ, and loving and forgiving others, to name a few examples. I’ve always had a clear understanding of its place in my life, and of what level of priority it deserved.

Head Covering Mistakes to Avoid

Sometimes I hear it suggested that those who practice head covering are obsessive, legalistic, ignorant, or unbalanced. I know I don’t fit that caricature and I’m disappointed to be so misrepresented. And yet, I try to be patient. It doesn’t do any good to let false assumptions get under your skin. Being super-sensitive to criticism leads to problems such as bitterness and resentment, and I don’t want to give those things a foothold in my heart. So, I’ve always tried to avoid taking myself too seriously.

I take God seriously, and I take His Word seriously, but I don’t take myself too seriously. This isn’t about me. Read more

What I Learned About Head Covering During the Pandemic

It’s gotten pretty cliché to talk about how recent events have thrust us into “unprecedented times” and forced us to conform to a “new normal.” And there is a bit of truth to that. For some of us, the practice of head covering may have been affected along with many other parts of life.

When we were first expected to stay home and church services went online, our whole routine was jostled. For the most part, I cover just at church, so what was I supposed to do now? I had to figure that out. Every Sunday morning, we would settle in to watch the sermon from our living room couch, while the children played quietly on the floor or colored at the nearby kitchen table. In preparation, I would brew some coffee for my husband and I to sip on. When the sermon started, I would put my covering on, even though we were at home. It did make that time feel more special.

Then we got lazy.

I hate to admit it, but Sunday started to get a little too relaxed, without the expectation of having to actually go somewhere. We got up later. We started the sermons in the middle. Then we stopped watching them and began to do other things. I guess that’s not so bad — I mean, we were spending time together as a family, and we were resting. But it wasn’t the same as having fellowship with people at church, and worshiping the Lord with them. I went for several weeks (or was it months?) without once putting on my covering. I can just imagine your horror and disappointment, and I’m not being sarcastic. I disappointed myself a little, too.

I should have been more diligent and committed to observing these important spiritual habits, even under “unprecedented circumstances.” Why? Because head covering is not something I do just so that other people may observe and learn from its visual symbolism. It’s something I do for God.

Head covering also helps me, too. When I don’t cover at least once a week at church — even if it’s online church — I feel like I’m gradually starting to forget something important. It’s like I’m losing touch with it, millimeter by millimeter. I need the tactile reminder that the head covering gives me!

Head Covering and Our Physical Senses

God made us a composite of the spiritual and the physical. Spirit, soul, heart, mind, brain, body: all are wrapped up into one. When God gave us physical symbols like the head covering, I believe He was providing for our need to experience (through our body’s physical senses) connections to His abstract, spiritual truths. He knew we needed something tangible! Read more

Covering Testimony: Chachi Fabre

Name: Chachi Fabre | Age: Mid 50’s | Location: Tavares, Florida | Date started covering: 2012


1) Introduce yourself to our readers.

I grew up in South America and have known the Lord since I was a little girl, when I memorized Bible verses and loved to go to vacation Bible school. I have been happily married since 1992, and the Lord has provided for me the desires of my heart to have a beautiful, happy family with two children, now young adults. My husband and I are empty-nesters and we enjoy our time together like new honeymooners. I work as a Real Estate Professional and also enjoy my time at home.

2) Where do you attend church? Tell us a little bit about it. Do others practice head covering there?

Our home church is Grand Island Baptist Church. It’s only 12 minutes away by car from our home and is a great church that teaches straight from the Bible. It’s a Baptist church and I believe no one else uses a covering, other than me.

3) What led you to start covering?

For many years, I have been doing my reading and studying from the Bible and online Bible studies. One morning during my Bible study and prayer time, I had an enlightenment while reading 1st Corinthians 11. Something happened–it was like the eyes of my heart and my soul opened and it was more clear than clean water; I just had to obey and do it. There were NO questions; only understanding, only answers. Of course, I re-read it several times, and I cried and asked for forgiveness for my ignorance. I was excited and talked about it with everyone, my sister and my mother and of course I talked with my husband and asked him if it was fine with him about my decision of obedience to God. To my surprise, my husband was receptive to it and so were my children. As a side note, when this first happened, I had no head covering to wear, so I used to pray by myself covering my head with a pillow. I felt in concentration with God and isolated from all noises from around the house. Yeah! It may sound strange, but it really felt good and in harmony at my praying time. Read more

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