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[Re-Blog] How do I Lovingly Submit to my Husband…When We Disagree?

Re-Blog: Headcovering Articles
The following article is a part of our re-blog series where we seek to give exposure to those who are writing interesting pieces on Complementarianism and head covering. We are not the author.

When I first told my husband I wanted to use a head-covering, and explained that the Bible tells women to do so as a sign of submission, he gave me a frown. Submission? The word was distasteful to him. It made him think of a brainless dish rag subjugating herself to every whim of her tyrant master. But, that’s not what he was! So, why submission? After we realized that the Bible uses the word submission to mean that the wife respects her husband’s leadership, we were back on familiar ground.

Similar to how my husband respects and “submits” to the authority of his boss at work, God expects me to respect and submit to the authority of my husband. It doesn’t mean he’s better than me; it means his role and my role are different. He has been given by God the responsibility of leading his family. I have been given by God the responsibility of respecting his opinions and “following through with his orders.” I don’t think submission is so hard to understand when put in those terms.

It’s fairly easy to follow through with orders when what your boss asks of you is something you also agree with. But what about when your boss asks you to do something you don’t agree with? What then? If my husband “disobeys” his boss at work, he could get fired! In the work realm, disrespecting your boss’s orders can get you into big trouble. In much the same way, when a wife disrespects her “boss’s” orders (or wishes), trouble is just around the corner. Marital problems develop. Finger pointing and blaming worsen the situation. Things might get uglier than that; things could end in divorce! That’s not a biblical solution, of course. But, if we don’t want that to happen to us, if we don’t want problems in our marriage, we need to think about how toprevent them before the situation gets serious. There’s got to be a better way of dealing with disagreement.

So, I’m going to throw out a few examples of how one might deal with differences of opinion in a marriage. Of course, these are my own opinions, and even though I will sometimes use quotations from the Bible to support what I believe to be the best solution, you are responsible for reading the Bible for yourself, and obeying God according to your best interpretation. Just watch out for those sneaky preconceived notions that can sometimes get in the way! In this post, I’m going to address head-covering. In subsequent posts, I will tackle other issues.

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[Re-Blog] Maintain the Traditions

Re-Blog: Headcovering Articles
The following article is a part of our re-blog series where we seek to give exposure to those who are writing interesting pieces on Complementarianism and head covering. We are not the author.

My wife and I have recently studied a matter in God’s Word together. It is something she became very interested in and started asking me about. In studying all the arguments and getting into the detailed exegesis of Paul’s language in this passage, we feel the Lord has blown open a portion of Scripture that was somewhat dim to us before.

This represents our current views on the issue and does not mean we believe those who read this passage differently are in rebellion. We encourage all believers to take a closer look at a passage that has often been brushed aside. I was talking to a minister friend of mine about this issue and he told me he’s heard of a few other wives of ministers switching to covering their heads after studying this passage in depth with their husbands. “What about you?” I asked. He chuckled, “I confess, I haven’t studied it in detail, yet.”

Sarah has written the following to describe her thinking on the matter now. Even if you don’t agree with us, God’s Word has powerful truths for His people in this chapter.

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Covering Testimony: Vian Elisabeth

Head Covering Testimonies

Name: Vian Elisabeth | Age: 23 | Location: Norway | Starting Covering: Summer 2014

Vian Elisabeth

1) Introduce yourself to our readers.

I am a Norwegian, the oldest of my siblings. I work as a teacher and assistant at a Christian school, while studying Bible Translation. I came to know the Lord in the end of 2013, and since then I’ve had only one goal in life – to live a life set apart for the Lord and His work. I love reading missionary biographies, playing the piano, singing, doing embroidery, knitting, as well as cooking!

2) Where do you attend church? Tell us a little bit about it. Do others practice headcovering there?

I attend a conservative Lutheran congregation in Norway. It’s a wonderful congregation with many faithfull believers. A few other women there practice head covering, which is great.

3) What led you to start covering?

I’d never given headcovering much thought before. It was when I became a true Christian and read through the Bible for the first time with my “eyes opened” that the words of 1 Corinthians 11 stood out to me. The Bible convinced me, as well as reading that this has been the common Christian practice throughout history. Read more

Sew Many Ways Kimi has begun head covering

Keami Terrill of “Sew Many Ways Kimi” has just begun the journey of head covering. Watch this video to hear her reasons why. She’s also begun posting headcovering tutorials on her YouTube channel.

Robert Culver Quote Image #1

Robert Culver Quote Image #1

Source: Women in Ministry: Four Views (1989, Intervarsity Press) – Location 214 accessed on Kindle version

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