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Covering Testimony: April Cassidy

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Name: April CassidyAge: 41Location: South Carolina, USAStarted Covering: Mar 2010

Covering Testimony: April Cassidy

1) Introduce yourself to our readers.

Hello, my name is April Cassidy. I am a very happily married wife and mother of 2 children, a part time pharmacist, a blogger at www.peacefulwife.com and an aspiring author. I accepted Christ as my Savior and Lord when I was 5 years old, when my Daddy led me to Christ.

2) Where do you attend church? Tell us a little bit about it.

We attend First Baptist Church of Columbia, SC. It is a LARGE church with an average attendance of over 2000 people. Our pastor seeks to teach from a very biblical perspective and uphold the Word of God. We have incredible diversity there. It is a downtown church, so we have people from all over the city and suburbs who worship with us. We also have a Burmese church, a Hispanic church, a special ed ministry, a deaf ministry, a ministry for the homeless, as well as strong ministries for every age group. We have been members there for 8 years now. Before that, we attended a Southern Baptist church in our town where my husband’s father was the pastor for 21 years.

3) What led you to start covering?

I discovered in December of 2008 that although I thought I had been a very godly, Christian wife, I had been controlling and quite disrespectful to my husband for over 14 years. I was shocked and mortified and so thankful that God opened my eyes to my sin. I began to study becoming a godly wife, respecting my husband, biblical submission, modesty, godly femininity and get rid of my worldly ideas that had been deeply hurting my marriage and my walk with Christ.

In March of 2010, I came across I Corinthians 11. By that point, I knew that if God was talking about authority, it was a BIG deal. Suddenly, I could no longer casually ignore this passage that I had ignored all of my Christian life. I asked pastors about it. They all said “it was a cultural thing that no longer applies today.” I read everything I could find about it. I could NOT justify that this command was culturally based. I wanted to find an excuse not to cover my head. I felt that I would be SO WEIRD in my large church covering my head during prayer because no one else covers their heads. But, as I continued to wrestle with God for a few days, I realized … “My commitment to You is that I will obey You. Period. If You want me to do something, You are my Lord and my God. I cannot say, ‘No, Lord.’ After all You have done and sacrificed for me, how can I possibly deny you this small thing?”

I spoke to my husband about the passage and asked if he would be ok with me covering my head during prayer in church. He said he was fine with me covering my head with a scarf at home and covering my head just during prayer at church with a scarf. I was in shock. “You are fine with that?!?!  Really!?!?!?” Well, that was just more confirmation that God had opened the doors for me to begin to cover. I asked my husband if I should cover all the time, or wear a hat to church. He decided he didn’t want me to do that. So, I honored my husband’s desire and the way he felt it would be best for me to cover my head.

4) Has this practice made any difference in your life?

I was shocked how much that tangible reminder helped me to adorn myself with a respectful and reverent attitude towards my husband and God, as I prayed.

  • I find that I approach God with much greater humility.
  • I began to feel so much closer to my husband spiritually, even though he wasn’t praying with me. I loved that tangible act of putting a cover over my head and thinking about him being my covering and protector from God.
  • I am full of joy just knowing that I am walking in obedience to Him to the best of my ability and under my husband’s leadership no matter what anyone else may do.
  • I am much more careful to honor my husband’s authority and treat him and God with respect because of this habit.

4) Has anyone said anything to you about your covering, at church?

One man came into our Sunday School room late one morning during prayer time, and he made a comment. He said out loud when we finished praying, “April looks like the virgin Mary over there with a scarf on her head!” I taught a class several times about being a godly wife and explained to the ladies that I was going to cover my head when I prayed in obedience to I Corinthians 11. No one said anything to me about it. This past Saturday, Greg (my husband) bought some hats for me at the flea market, and he said it would be fine if I wanted to wear a hat to church. I was so excited! I had one person ask me if I was going to the Kentucky Derby. And I had a number of compliments on the hat. But no one asked me why I was wearing it.

5) What counsel can you give to women that do not cover out of fear?

I personally had to decide that I want to fear God – in a healthy way – much more than I want to be afraid of what other people think. I used to be a people pleaser. But God showed me that I was putting the approval of people above His approval in my life and that is major sin. Probably even idolatry. So, when I think about that my only real purpose and goal in life is to please, honor and obey Christ, and I know that that will involve people persecuting me, criticizing me, not approving of me – I can be ok with that. My goal is to receive the praise of God. I don’t really care that much about what people think about me anymore. It is a prison to live in fear of the opinions of people. It is oppressive to constantly have to be worried about what people might say. What freedom there is in Christ to only need to seek to please God – and no one else.

6) What kind of covering(s) do you use? Where did you get them?

From March of 2010 until 2 weeks ago, I only used scarves. I would put a scarf over my head when I prayed at home. Sometimes I wrap my hair in it and tie it around my head so it stays on better and doesn’t slide off. At church, I just lay a scarf over my head during prayer. I usually use a polyester scarf so it doesn’t mess up my hair too much. This past week, I wore a hat with a ribbon that my husband found for $1.50 at the flea market. I also just recently found some solid colored bandanas at Hobby Lobby, after a long time searching.

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Comments

Sara June Thompson
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God bless you for obeying his Word and covering. And fearing God more than you fear man. That is great that you have been covering for 4 years, even though it sounds like no one is joining you. I glad to hear that recently you have been given more options by your husband as to acceptable coverings. Enjoy trying them out.

Blythe
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I find this comment highly disturbing… her husband has ‘given’ her more options? How degrading is that? Make your own decisions.

Sara June Thompson
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When I first started to cover, the first few weeks I used an eternity style scarf around my neck and put it up over my head whenever there was prayer or worship. My dh REALLY did not like that, he said it made me look like a Muslim (even though one of the scarves I bought had crosses all over it). I tried a hat and he said that was better. than the scarves. So hats it is for me (I actually prefer them myself and that is what we wore to church when i was a very little girl). I am glad that while original posters husband said yes to scarves and no to hats, he is now ok with a hat. So now she has more options about what to choose. That sounds like a good thing.

Alicia
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My husband said yes to scarves but no hats!I Praise Jesus my husband let me do it at all!

Stavia
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Yes … this blog is like medieval people with the internet … disturbing indeed!

Kathryn Denise Adamson-Taylor
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If you find it disturbing than don’t read it or follow I found your comment hateful,rude,and disturbing there is nothing wrong with being a good wife and your husband’s hand maiden I love my family and our Lord and feminism has destroyed our society this like chauvinistic attitudes do the same we all have our place we all have our duties my husband is to work and provide for us – to raise our children and to provide for them my love runs deep for my family and for my lord I’m sorry you feel this way and you find this disturbing and medieval for it is not dislike opinions we all have our own they have nothing nice to say then keep it to yourself thank you and God bless

Angela Joy
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Not degrading at all. It’s just being polite. If you hated something your husband always wore, wouldn’t you try to come up with something that worked for both of you? Would you wear an article of clothing that your husband says doesn’t look good on you (because not everything looks good). It’s just respectful. We don’t have issue with saying that ‘he allows’ or ‘his permission’, because it’s not about control. Our husbands are not trying to control us or tell us what to do.

Tara Betteridge
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I agree here. It is awesome when our spouses are on board with our choice to cover. My husband has nixed certain cover styles for multiple reasons. But we always agree on what I do use!

Terry1993
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I also cover my head at church … not just when praying but before entering the church as I come before Him. No one at church where I live right now covers. I went to a reformed church but recently moved and where I live no one covers. I bought a few from Garlands of Grace but they are about 20 dollars each. A friend made me several though and they stay on well and look better then a bandana or scarf. I asked my husband, who is very much into the word, if I should cover my head in church and before I got the sentence out he said, yes probably should. If you want a cover my friend made me several and I will mail you one as she made several of each color.

Kathryn Denise Adamson-Taylor
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Thank you for your comment and it’s beautiful that your husband loves and respects you Amen

Kathryn Denise Adamson-Taylor
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I feel the same but I am having a hard time making my husband understand. I truly love Christ with all my soul and want to please my savior what do I do or say. My family is not religious I am speaking about my parents and siblings and they already look at me weird for praising our Lord I know it should not matter but sheesh it does after all I am human and any advice will be much needed and appreciated god bless you all!!

edmund316
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Praying that God would strengthen you to just simply do his will, and that there would be great blessing in your relationship with your husband, so that even if he doesn’t understand it, the fruit of your life will advertise the “beauty of holiness”.

Steve Gone
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Funny part in Europe the Orthodox Christians had done it for centuries , it is considered disrespectful for a woman to show up in any Orthodox church without her head covered.Men are supposed to have their heads uncovered and their hats taken off .Most American churches are more liberal in this question.When I was younger and better I once was surprised to discover , that God wants men to have short hair and women are supposed to keep theirs long.Leviticus 19:27 also says : “Ye shall not round the corners of your heads, neither shalt thou mar the corners of thy beard.”
Not sure how to understand it …Is it a sin for man to shave or trim their beards ? Any ideas ?

Jeremy Gardiner
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Hey @steve_gone:disqus, thanks for the question. No, I do not believe the the levitical laws were intended to be carried out by the church. With Jesus there was a shift in rules and regulations. The author of Hebrews says, “In speaking of a new covenant, he makes the first one obsolete” (Heb 8:13) and Paul says that Jesus, “has broken down in his flesh the dividing wall of hostility by abolishing the law of commandments expressed in ordinances” (Eph 2:14-15). In contrast, men having short hair is taught to the church as a part of the natural order (meaning, transcultural and transcovenant).

Steve Gone
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Thank you Jeremy, I am recovering ex-mormon , who spent 11 years of his life in the church.Initially it was all simple prepackaged and processed lol and just brought to my front door by smiling friendly missionaries.
However with my current knowledge I do not believe Mr.Smith was anyone with prophetic powers or that God in flesh resides on planet Kolob etc.
My current Christian values are clother to Lutheran’s I believe , but when I have a free minute I always enjoy studying scriptures by myself and discussing what I read.

Jennifer D. Atkinson
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In *some* Orthodox Christian churches, it’s the norm. In some, it’s not. In our church, some women do, some women don’t. In traveling, I’ve found the Russian churches have more women with covered heads, and the Greek churches fewer.

April Cassidy
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Update- the past few years, I have been wearing a cloche hat to church as my covering.

April Cassidy

http://www.peacefulwife.com

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