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Covering Testimony: Amanda Gardiner

Amanda Gardiner Head Covering Testimonial
Name: Amanda GardinerAge: 25Location: Newfoundland, CanadaStarted Covering: March 2009

1) Introduce yourself to our readers.

My name is Amanda and I am a wife and mother of 3 beautiful children (all aged 4 and under).  I love singing, baking, reading and spending time with my little ones.

2) Where do you attend church? Tell us a little bit about it.

I attend a church in the city of St. Johns.  It is non-denominational but has strong Brethren leanings.  It is a mix of older and younger congregants but fairly small (less than 100 people).

3) What led you to start covering?

My story of covering is probably different from many others.  I was not convinced by scripture to cover.  Sure, I believed the scripture said it, but my main reason to start covering was actually pride and works righteousness.  Very quickly after my conversion i looked around me to the people i thought were the most “holy” and tried to imitate them.  For me this meant throwing all my pants in the trash, stopping wearing make-up, covering every moment of the day (even praying alone in bed), not wearing any jewellery (except my wedding ring), and constantly scrutinizing everybody that didn’t look like me!  About a year later my husband came to me and showed me that the scriptures stated that the covering was a symbol for the gathered body of Christ.  I swallowed my pride and stopped covering all the time and began to only cover for church gatherings.  I will confess that at first this seemed “wrong”.  I had trained my conscience in a way that was not true and now had to untrain it.  It didn’t take long however and this faded.  Over the last few years I have watched legalism melt away into joy in Christ.  I now joyfully wear pants that are both modest and feminine and enjoy the freedom that comes from careful and thoughtful make-up and jewellery   In the same way I now enjoy my glory (my hair) being styled modestly throughout the week and also delight in covering for church gatherings for the benefit of the angels, and the glory of Christ Jesus.

4) What was that first Sunday like when you showed up in a covering?

Truthfully, I’m not sure I remember the first Sunday  but I DO remember the first DAY I covered and it was not fun.  I was puffed with pride AND nervous at the same time…..not a good mix!  I remember that after explaining what I was doing, I was asked “……are you serious?!?!?!” There was awkwardness in the air the whole night. Even though you may have a difficult first couple days, that fades. People get used to it and many are even curious in a good way and want to know more about it.  What a glorious witness!

5) What counsel can you give to women that do not cover out of fear?

I would say a few things:
a) It’s normal to be nervous, but do not fear.  The bible tells us not to be anxious about anything and that Christ knows our needs.  I know this is easier said than done, but the fact remains that we can take our fears before a God that understands our weakness and grants grace to the humble of heart.
b) The “persecutions” we face here (a snide remark, a teenager giggling at us, harsh words from family/friends) are momentary light afflictions that are storing up treasure for us in heaven, kept by God!  On top of this, we can look to the intense suffering of Christians in other nations for inspiration to stand strong.  Women that are slaughtered, men that are tortured and driven out of town, children that are beaten, all for the name of Christ!  Surely we can pick up our cross in this much lighter area.
c) You are being a light.  This issue is so beaten down in the churches today that no one wants to touch it with a ten foot pole.  No one wants to stand alone.  Well, remember this: you are not alone.  Women all over the world DO cover and HAVE covered since the beginning of the church.  WE are the anomaly   You are representing a doctrine of truth from Gods word and upholding the commandment that he has given women.  What an honor!

6) What kind of covering(s) do you use? Where did you get them?

I wear a snood style covering (this is my preference) and my daughters wear cheap cotton ones that are attached to elastic headbands.  I get my higher quality ones at garlandsofgrace.com and my daughters style can be found anywhere (like a Wal-Mart or Target).

 

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Comments

Christina C
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Hi Amanda! I am so excited to “meet” another covering Christian. 🙂 Blessing to you sister.

clarinetlaj
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hey girl, nice to meet you too.

Christina C
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Yay! Another sister! So happy to get to know you.

wallace k kat (Anna)
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and a pleaseure to meet you also

wallace k kat (Anna)
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hi nice to meet you also,

wallace k kat (Anna)
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Hey Christina Hi

Christina C
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Hi there. Sorry to hear about your fire. What type of coverings do you wear? I might have some I could send you.

wallace k kat (Anna)
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I wear scarves, and very wide headbands, like what you find on garlands of grace that can be pulled done over the back of the head, also I had light weight cotton snoods that were good for summer I have ms so light is better in weight, nothing fancy fancy but I enjoy color as do my husband I,m 60 and an old hippy type,, I wish I had a way to show you what I like,, thank you so much for the offer if you can help it would be an honor

Christina C

I know I’ve bought some from them. They have the elastic right? You sound like my hubby, sort of like a hippy. 🙂 I too LOVE color. I bet I have some. I think my head is too big for even the larger size as they always slip off my head so I have to use bobbie pins a lot. lol. Do you have a church address I can send them to? This is the internet and I’m sure you don’t want to post your home address so that is why I asked for a church address.

wallace k kat (Anna)

I dont mind posting my address
it,s anna mathews
3737 sw 117th avenue sp 6
beaverton oregon 97005
my church is a good 45 miles from us, so we dont get there often unless some one is willing to come pick us up which lol is not very often at all

wallace k kat (Anna)
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I,m Anna been covering for almost 10 years, I am 59 married, I have slipped along the way, many so called christian feminests will harrass and bully women like me into removing our head covering and modest dress,, I had to work through this and with my husbands support I am no content and happy and will not remove my headcovering ever, after a devasting house fire a little over a year ago,I lost all my coverings out side of the one I had on that day, , finances have been rough since but last weekend we found awesome headcoverings at the Sat Market and my husband was able to get me a few!!
some day I hope to be able to afford some from Garlands of Grace,,
god is good,, I feel closer and loved than ever, andmy husband is so very supportave

Jenny
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Hello! I was wondering how your husband saw it so clearly that it is only for worship? It is clear that it says when we prayeth or prophesieth and women are to be silent in the church so we certainly wouldn’t be prophesying in the church. I’m very interested to know your thoughts on that. Also what do you think of the verse in Deut about a woman not wearing what pertains to a man? That one really convicted me about not wearing pants. Also women have always worn dresses again until the feminist movement. The universal sign on a bathroom for women is a dress! 🙂 What are your thoughts on that? Thanks & God Bless!

Diane
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Jenny, that’s not really true. What pertains to a man would be obvious man clothes. Pants were actually created thousands of years ago for *women* somewhere in Asia. I don’t see anything wrong with a modest pair of pants. I don’t personally wear many jeans anymore because the styles offered are too fitted and made to accentuate the female figure, going in the opposite direction of jean styles makes me feel frumpy so I stick mostly to skirts which make me feel feminine but most dresses are completely impractical for my every day life (4 kids 6 years old and under and 3 are boys so a lot of time in the yard is spent).

Just my take…

Christina C
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I wear skirts Mon-Thursday and sometimes on Friday. I work outside of the home, corporate work. Friday is casual day so we get to wear jeans so sometimes I will wear a pair of jeans and you are SO right, it is difficult to find some that aren’t showing off my womanly curves. So I wear loooong shirts. lol. And yes, women in Asia wore pants long before we in the West ever did but I think they too wore a long kimono over it and men’s were shorter. Anyway, on weekends (except for church, I am ALWAYS in a dress or skirt, with my headcovering) I often wear jeans or sweats when I am doing the housework or if my husband and I are out mushroom hunting or hiking. Jeans skirts are great when around the house and with kiddos though. And khaki too.

clarinetlaj
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Hey there jenny!
I will let my husband defend the location of where to cover (since he is MUCH more eloquent then me) but there were a few things that led to us coming to that conclusion.

In regards to pants, i dont want to open up a big debate on that (since thats not the purpose of this forum) but i will say a few things. Firstly, pants have not always been worn by men and skirts by women (this is a western thing). Back in the day men wore robes (sure look an awful lot like a dress in our society). I believe scripture commands us to be modest and feminine, and femininity is determined by the culture we dwell in. In our culture it is indeed feminine to wear skirts/dresses, but i dont think a case can be made that is is UNfeminine to wear pants. Many are not feminine and many are immodest, but not all. Also, as you know, many skirts are not modest at all! It comes down to heart and not hemlines.

I do not think a case can be made from scripture for the exclusive wearing of skirts….although perhaps one can be made for only wearing flip flops in the summer when its too hot for sneakers 😉 lol

Amy Unruh
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Definitely, many skirts and dresses are far more immodest than pants. I cringe a lot and wonder who decided to define what was modest and what wasn’t. I heard something, though, the other day that made me think. A woman said that pants make a perfect upside down V up to the crotch. And it’s so true. I was always wondering why my eyes are always drawn to the crotch of both men and women. It really bothers me, and is one of the reasons I get so bothered that most types of pants for men are really not modest at all (I’m not lusting here. With a background of abuse, seeing men in pants with a shirt that doesn’t cover their crotch can be traumatic to me.) Thank you to the many Middle Eastern men who wear tunics that go to their knees.
It was definitely a problem my husband had before we were married, too. I’d never really thought about it that way, but it makes me glad that I was kinda forced to not wear pants because of my skin condition. I don’t want men looking at my crotch.

Denise
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Prophesying points to public worship because of its’ connection with singing the Psalms. We prophesy when we speak God’s word. Mainly, we prophesy together in corporate worship. Many also sing Psalms at home in family worship, but you can tell that Paul has corporate worship in mind by reading the entire chapter of 1 Cor. 11. The end of the chapter gives the institution of the Lord’s Supper. And, I don’t think that any here would argue that the Lord’s Supper should be practiced outside of public worship.

Marina Doshkevich
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Paul had probably never seen a man wearing a pair of pants. People certainly didn’t back then. In fact at that point pants would have been seen as more like women’s wear then men’s, although uncommon for both. The people that wore them were mostly were the “barbarians” to the North. Both men and women. Also in the East women wore pants. But he would probably never have seen it. Greeks, Romans, Jews all wore togas or robes. But the proverb suggests that women and men should both wear clothing that is simply appropriate to their gender at any given time. So basically, pants made for and sold to women are fine to wear.

Doctus Jurisperitus
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Since the pre-Christian era up to the mid-20th century, Celtic and Germanic populations unanimously wore, as standard clothing, pants for men and skirts/dresses for women. Without the weapon factories of WWII it would have never became accepted for women to wear pants.

Amy Unruh
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As I understand it, the word for man was actually warrior. I believe there was a problem with men dressing like women to avoid military service. I’d totally love it if both men and women wore robes today. I hate men wearing pants. Doesn’t leave much to the imagination, and I’d rather they did!

Chantelle Monroe
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You can always argue that pink pants are for women, and blue for men, or whatever the culture in you are in is into.

Angela Wheeler
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WE cover as well. I have covered for about eight years now and I have to say, I am always aware it is there. People ask about it all the time.

On the skirts/ pants thing- my daughters (15 and 17) wear dresses and skirts all the time. Back about eleven years ago when we first started homeschooling them, I read about who,end wearing women’s clothing, Etc… The Lord really showed me that I would not be showing them we were different if I looked like all of the people I was always around d. We lived in a college town, so the dress was lax at best. My husband lost his job around that time . I didn’t even own anything but jeans- and that was before they made them so form fitting- and I prayed and asked the Lord to completely provide new clothes for me. I knew I could not ask my husband for a clothing g budget when we couldn’t even afford to pay our rent. I really hoped God would NOT do anything about it. I loved my jeans and t-shirts! Anyway, long story short, he did bring me a whole new wardrobe. Belts, shoes, skirts, tops, every item you could think of to replace all I had. He even brought clothes to my daughters. I had not even considered changing their clothes, but He did! It was all at once and brought to my very door without any effort from me other than praying that one time. Really I prayed more in defiance of what He had laid on my a heart than of asking Him to help me do His will. Boy, He will bring about what He wills! Now since then, until this winter, the girls and I have not worn pants. They have some jeans for outdoor work, But I still only wear skirts and dresses even for outside work. They usually do too. Even though people don’t say anything about our clothing, whenever they have had on pants, some of our friends have mentioned it being weird and wrong to see them that way. These are folks who’s girls still wear primarily pants. Honestly, god knows me and knows how prone I am to want to “wear the pants in the family” and so He changed that outside and works daily on the inside too. Shalom!

clarinetlaj
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hey Angela, like i said, i have NO problem with people who wear skirts only, as long as they dont say it is commanded 🙂 I loved wearing skirts too.

Chantelle Monroe
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When I was a little girl I pretty much always wore skirts & dresses, but then in high school and college switched over to pretty much always pants, but then when I started working in an office I switched back to wearing skirts every day. =)

wallace k kat (Anna)
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good evening sisters,, just popping in , not feeling too good today, ,, sometimes MS can take one on an interesting joy ride,,, not always a fun one,,

wallace k kat (Anna)
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also wanted to say I cover from the time I get up tilI go to bed,, , as I feel I am in prayer always, and my husband would prefer I do also,, , my hair is not for other men to see,, I feel lost of I do not cover

J in VA
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Even though is is not a commandment in the biblical sense, I do think there is also something to be said for wearing dresses and skirts in what has become a VERY androgenous society.
I have not found anything I could not do in the right skirt or dress–some are better for certain things than others. My dd does wear riding pants for horseback riding with a long tunic. I helped dh fix the roof in a skirt and capri length leggings. It’s really a matter of just realizing that years ago, skirts did not stop women from their everyday lives.

Marina Doshkevich
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Years ago women simply had the luxury to never do certain things, like fixing roofs, because it wasn’t ladylike, and couldn’t be done in a skirt. In cases where women needed to do physical things, like the frontier, or during wartimes, women wore pants, even years ago.

Doctus Jurisperitus
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The only time women wore pants before the mid-20th century was to go outside in the very cold weather during the winter in northern regions, and they wore special snow pants, not regural men pants. And this was only when they had to go in the deep snow. And yes, this was on the frontier, not in the city.

Chantelle Monroe
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It’s actually been proven that skirts are warmer than pants if both are the same length. Think of it like mittens compared to gloves. Women of course wore some kind of tights or leggings too underneath.

Chantelle Monroe
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Marina, you can actually do way more in a skirt than expectation. =)

Elizabeth
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I love your story. Thank you for sharing and making the real purpose of the covering clear – to glorify God, not to glorify ourselves. You’re quite an encouragement. 🙂

Amanda Sadler
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I have always been drawn to head covering but just recently started. I hear conflicting stands on when to cover. Some say all the time because we are commanded to be in continual prayer, some say only when out of the house, and others say only when in church or church functions. I am constantly finding myself praying at random points in the day (grocery check out line, red lights, while pumping gas, etc) and would feel more comfortable wearing a covering most of the time for this purpose. I suppose I could wear a scarf around my neck and throw it over my head prior to prayer, but I feel that may draw more attention to me.

Chantelle Monroe
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Amanda, I agree that there are many different viewpoints as to when and how much one should practice in headcovering. I was called to wearing it Sundays, and that’s my one day. I call it my ‘modest Sunday’s’. I started back in February on spontaneous inspiration, and am somehow still doing. =)

Victoria Miller
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Sunday’s to church, or the entire day?

Chantelle Monroe
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I wear headcovering for the entire day on Sundays. I put on a hijab first thing in the morning and take it off after evening prayer, but this is the only day I do so, rest of week regular me.

Sara June Thompson
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The Lord impressed upon me about a year ago to wear dresses and skirts more. I don’t wear them all the time but a lot of the time. And I have been blessed with many long skirts too. For me that came before the Lord started talking to me about head covering. I do think long skirts are more modest and feminine than any other type of clothing. I tend to wear them a lot in the winter months, knee length ones more in the summer months. For some reason I seem to feel more comfortable wearing a knee length skirt in the summer for casual wear. This past winter I have worn long skirts a lot but sometimes jeans, especially for cleaning/casual etc.I was kind of worried what the combination of long skirt/head covering would look like, would it be too “out there” but so far so good. I seem to prefer the actual hats at this time, but I’ve only been covering since the first of the year.

Amy Unruh
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I’ve been struggling with head covering only being in church worship. It doesn’t say anything about that in the verses except for being uncovered not being a practice of the churches of God. But the verses still don’t say to cover when praying IN CHURCH. Or to cover when Prophesying IN CHURCH. When we pray, we are in the presence of the Lord. Shouldn’t we cover? We don’t just prophesy in church. If prophesying is relating a message from God and God has given us the gospel to preach to the nations, then we are all prophets, in essence. I could be wrong on that, of course, but it makes sense to me. It wouldn’t just happen in church or public worship.

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