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Overcoming Head Covering Pride

Overcoming Head Covering Pride

Once I discovered the truth about head covering, I started telling my friends and family about my decision, but only a few have joined me in covering.

As a head covering woman, I’m often left wondering why aren’t more women in our western churches covering? Why do our churches insist on viewing covering as a ‘cultural’ thing when it clearly is not?

The scales have fallen off our eyes and we want everyone to understand the blessing of covering, but when we are met with so much resistance it’s easy to find yourself slipping into self-righteous judgement and pride.

We think, ‘I know the truth. Those people don’t. I don’t even think they care to know the truth about covering.’

Even when you try to be humble, somehow arrogance tries to sneak its way into your heart. You think, ‘I am so wise. They are ignorant.’

Of course prideful thoughts don’t stop with head covering, they can show up in every area of our lives. Our nature is sinful — even though we choose to cover. In fact, head covering is just another area we have to watch out so we don’t become prideful in it!

Pride is one of those easy sins to let slide, but is it one that needs much consideration.

The Bible says that ‘Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.’ (Proverbs 16:18 )

Destruction? Really? That’s a pretty heavy word, but I think it points to the idea that God takes the state of the human heart very seriously.

As women who cover, I think we should pay extra special attention to the opinions of those who do not cover.

When we speak to them, we should be gentle and full of grace.

When we think of them, we should be even moreso.

The Bible tells us that we should think of others better than we do ourselves. (Phillipians 2:3) Not the other way around.

I’m not going to lie — when you see someone in error — it’s easy to cast the first stone, but remember Jesus and the adulterous woman. She was found in one of the most grievous of sins and he — though he was God — showed her humility and grace.

Covering doesn’t make you holy, it is only an outward sign of something in your heart. It is the corruption in the heart that makes you unclean. (Matthew 23:27)

You can cover all day long — even while you sleep — but if you are inwardly arrogant and boasting of your own righteousness, you have missed the point of being under the authority of Christ. To be like Christ, is to be lowly and not self-seeking. It’s a tall order. One that only can be fulfilled with the help of the Holy Spirit.

Instead of judging other women that have not found the beauty of covering, let us instead put our head coverings to good use and fervently pray for a revival in Biblical womanhood and that the Lord would change their hearts towards covering.

Elaine Mingus

Elaine Mingus always knew that some day she’d be a real writer. After graduating from the University of Texas with a degree in journalism, she imagined herself walking up and down the streets of New York but instead found herself walking up and down the stairs of a house in the suburbs of Austin, Texas chasing six children. Today, she writes on the side, happily pimps a white picketed-fence and a minivan but still dreams of New York. She blogs regularly at Radical Christian Woman.

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  • Kinuko H

    <As women who cover, I think we should pay extra special attention to the opinions of those who do not cover. When we speak to them, we should be gentle and full of grace. When we think of them, we should be even more so.

    <You can cover all day long — even while you sleep — but if you are inwardly arrogant and boasting of your own righteousness, you have missed the point of being under the authority of Christ. To be like Christ, is to be lowly and not self-seeking. It’s a tall order. One that only can be fulfilled with the help of the Holy Spirit.

    Amen!

    Dear Elaine, thank you so much for this post. It was very educational. God bless you, my sister. Kinuko

    • Elaine Mingus

      Thanks for reading!

  • Sara June Thompson

    Great article. yes, it would be easy to fall into pride over the issue. I always try to remind myself of all the people I led astray when I put forward the whole “Corinthian prostitute” position on this passage years ago, when I was a seminary student and people looked up to my opinions on Biblical matters.. Good way to stay humble.

    • Elaine Mingus

      Yes! I remember not to long ago when I said ‘it’s cultural’!

      Even when we ‘do good’ — it’s good to remember that our ‘good deeds are as filthy rags’ in comparison to the Holy Father!

  • Armand Rhone

    Hi Elaine,

    Really good post, I would say that you are right on when it comes to not being self righteous when it comes to head covering or any of The Father’s commands, at the same time though we as believers should not be afraid to judge those who are called our brothers and sisters in the Messiah.

    1Co 5:9-13 TS1998 9 I wrote to you in my letter not to keep company with those who whore. 10 And I certainly did not mean with those of this world who whore, or with the greedy of gain, or swindlers, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. 11 But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone called ‘a brother,’ if he is one who whores, or greedy of gain, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or a swindler – not even to eat with such a one. 12 For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Do you not judge those who are inside? 13 But Elohim judges those who are outside. And put away the wicked one from among you!

    Additionally Yeshua said the following:
    *[[Joh 7:24]] TS1998* “Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.”

    It is a common tradition of men that we as believers are not to judge one another, but without judging each other with righteous judgement we allow sin to reign in the body of the Messiah as it is impossible to rebuke sin as we are supposed to (1 Timothy 5:20, Proverbs 27:5) without judging one another.

    Also, do not be afraid to stand on the truth when the Holy Spirit reveals it to you. Remember the Spirit is there to lead us into all truth (John 16:13). Therefore there is always going to be a right way (truth) and a wrong way (error/disception) and if someone has been taught the truth and completely rejects it then it is because they are walking in the flesh and not in the Spirit.

    I believe Romans 8 supports this also provides the answer to your question as to why there are so many in the West who don’t keep the tradition of head covering as laid out in Scripture…

    Rom 8:5-8 5 For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the matters of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the matters of the Spirit. 6 For the mind of the flesh is death, but the mind of the Spirit is life and peace. 7 Because the mind of the flesh is enmity towards God, for it does not subject itself to the Law of God, neither indeed is it able, 8 and those who are in the flesh are unable to please God.

    The matters of this flesh in the case of head coverings would be women’s beauty, the desire to show ones hair (a womans glory), lack of desire to wear a symbol of submissiveness in a world corrupted by feminist teachings, fear of men/the world and how they will view a woman who covers, etc.

    You mentioned that we should pay extra attention to opinions of those who don’t cover. I would say that scripture would have us to address the rebuttals of those who don’t agree with the tradition with meekness and patience (2 Timothy 2:24) but at the end of the day if their “opinions” as to why they don’t cover do not agree with the Word then they would be considered divisive, and the Scriptures says the following about those who are divisive within the body:

    Tit 3:10-11 TS1998 10 Reject a divisive man after the first and second warning, 11 knowing that such a one has been perverted, and sins, being self-condemned.

    We also know that the churches in the first century only had one practice and that was from women to pray and/or prophecy with their heads covered (1 Corinthians 11:16), anything that went against that traditions would have been considered heretical and rebellious, thus Paul says the following…

    *[[2Th 3:6]] TS1998* But we command you, brothers, in the Name of our Master Yeshua Messiah, that you withdraw from every brother who walks disorderly and not according to the tradition which you received from us.

    The problem which we have in the body today is that everyone is doing what is right in their own eyes and we are not standing on the truth. When this happens we except all types of sinful practices in the Church which causes people to think that it is ok to sin and disobey the Messiah and the precepts He has given us; it also greatly dims the light that we are supposed to have as His church because as the standard or righteousness falls we begin to look more and more like the world which we know is in darkness…

    • Elaine Mingus

      We should definitely stand up for truth, while remembering the depth from which we were rescued!

    • Gemma Valerie Brown

      Great way of explaining as to why so many women either choose not to or don’t see the need to. Really enjoyed reading your comment! God bless

      • Armand Rhone

        Amen, glad it was a blessing to you!

  • Gemma Valerie Brown

    Good lesson learnt from what you’ve wrote very well Elaine! Pride is not something we should just let slip, but yes in a loving nature maybe bring up the subject with friends & family who either choose not to wear a head-covering or don’t see the need to. Great post, God bless you sister!

  • Amy Frank

    Wonderful post. I think we all have to remember that somehow in our current culture even something like head covering can be very difficult. I have even known a lady who got beat up by her husband because she wanted to cover. So unlike God we don’t know all that is going on in others lives. And so with all that is going on I feel we need to have compassion and be full of prayer and thankful for any abilities to follow Christ ourselves at all.

  • Dianne Plourde

    Loved this article. Thank you. A humble attitude towards others at all times is crucial or else we stray very far from the Lamb we follow … no matter how much we try to obey Him. Great points made.

  • Lizzaanne O Leary

    How can anyone have pride as we are only duty doing servants and everyone in the world serves their demonic masters so much better?

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